But one question I kept hearing afterward was: " Could you write one for women and explain to me why my husband won't have sex with me? I asked a few friends for answers, and most of us just scratched our heads. Men who don't want to have sex? Overwhelmingly, we heard this was the case and women wanted answers. Now, I don't speak from experience on this one. Just like my first post, this is not a definitive list by any means; I'm putting it out there to hopefully encourage you talk about this stuff with your spouse.
Advice for the Modern Man: Why Won’t My Husband Have Sex With Me?
Why Women Won't Have Sex With Their Husbands | HuffPost Life
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Dear Therapist: My Husband Doesn’t Want to Have Sex Anymore
Childbirth changes a marriage. It's not just about a new baby's presence, but the toll it takes on your body. Sure you can feed your child with formula, leave him in a daycare center, and use the cry it out method, but what if you want to practice full time breastfeeding and attachment parenting, like me? The first few weeks I survived by telling myself to take one day at a time, and keep it simple. Sex was out of the window, long gone to a different continent by then.
Recently, I received a message from a wife who was desperately looking for some advice. She shared with me that her husband is a kind, loving, and wonderful man in every way EXCEPT he rarely, if ever, wants to have sex with her. In fact, they have gone months at a time without making love, and the absence of intimacy and connection in their marriage is breaking her heart and making her resent her husband. I could feel her frustration and pain as I read her heartfelt message. In the end, she asked me if I had any advice on what she could do to address this issue with her husband and make sexual intimacy an active part of their marriage once again.