It surprises me how today, in , there are still so many misconceptions tossed around about the bisexual community, specifically dating a bisexual person. Together, he and I have busted some myths about dating a bisexual person. Being bisexual has nothing to do with being unfaithful. In short, attraction and infidelity are not the assumed uncontrollable urges for those with sexualities other than heterosexual.
Here's How To Tell If You're Actually Bisexual
Being gay is okay: Bisexuality
As a proud bisexual man, for years I've had to navigate the complicated gray area that my identity occupies on the sexuality spectrum. Despite all of the gains the LGBT community has made, bisexuals are still looked upon with confusion — or outright scorn — by gays, lesbians, and straight people alike. From people asking me if I was "full-blown gay yet" to others questioning my motivations, I've probably heard it all. Unfortunately, the binary thinking of those who deny bisexuality's existence ultimately oppresses everyone by perpetuating unflinching standards of identity, whether they be heteronormative or homonormative. Being intimate with someone of the same sex doesn't mean you're gay, just like being intimate with someone of the opposite sex doesn't mean you're straight — it just means you fall somewhere in the beautiful, fluid spectrum of sexuality. So here we are in the supposedly enlightened year of , and yet, biphobia persists.
Why Isn't It OK for Guys to Be Bi?
Using humor, casually referring to past experiences, and coming out more formally can all be good approaches depending on the person or situation. One often learns that those around us have also had similar experiences. Just like straight, lesbian, and gay folks, , bisexuals are all different.
In simplest terms, a bisexual person is someone who can be attracted to more than one gender; but adults and youth who identify as bisexual sometimes describe themselves differently. Many bisexual adults have embraced the definition proposed by longtime bisexual leader, national speaker and award-winning activist Robyn Ochs:. This broad definition of bisexuality includes people who identify as pansexual, queer, fluid and other labels that suggest potential attraction to more than one gender. Yes, and some are. Because sexual orientation refers to a person's sexual or romantic attraction and gender identity is about how people identify themselves along the spectrum of gender, transgender people can identify as lesbian, gay, straight, bisexual, queer or any other sexual orientation.