It may seem odd to some that I will be celebrating in May if gay men and gay women win the right to marry given that, just over two years ago, I discovered that my husband of 20 years was gay. To this day, I have no idea how long he has been struggling with his sexuality. His coming out was traumatic, to say the least, but much more so for him than for me. He had tried very hard to keep his true sexuality hidden from me, our children and just about everyone he knew. Indeed, when I discovered the truth I must admit, I was strangely relieved.
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How helping my husband discover he’s gay helped me let go
By Janine Cole Oct 25, Photo: Courtesy of Janine Cole. One Saturday morning last fall, my marriage ended before I even had a chance to finish my coffee.
I repeatedly receive questions from agitated wives who feel traumatized when they learn that their husband is homosexual. The length of their marriages range from a few years to 20 and 30 years together. Many have children, of differing ages, with their husbands. Always, this is met with shock, despair and betrayal.